Matt Harris, a principal at a Playworks school, sees recess and playtime as an important time for kids to develop the relationship building skills they’ll need to succeed in class and in their future. “By tackling empathy at recess, we aren’t just hoping that kids will practice it. We know they do because we see the difference,” he says. “Kids are playing, listening to each other, and solving conflicts quickly, so the group as a whole can get back to playing.”
When students play, they practice skills like respect, compassion, and empathy. Relationship skills include conflict resolution, cooperation, and teamwork help kids emerge naturally when kids get to play with their friends and those they don’t normally interact with in class. Here are six ways adults can set up students for success with developing these critical relationship skills at recess that help them immediately and that last throughout their time in the workforce in adulthood.
Teach students to play in ways that are inviting
For example, in a game of foursquare, set the expectation that whoever is serving will rotate out after three serves so that more students have a chance to play.
Model positive social skills
Join students in a game at recess. Lead by example. Offer high fives, use positive language, and encourage students with a “good job, nice try” when they rotate out. Children will take their social cues from adults.
Play games that reinforce empathy
Build social awareness through games that encourage students to take the perspective of others, to walk a few steps in someone else’s shoes, or to collaborate as a team. Try Fake Out or Hi, My Name Is.
Teach Rock Paper Scissors for conflict resolution
Playing Rock Paper Scissors teaches students to resolve disagreements in a way that feels fair without adult intervention.
5. Teach games that encourage cooperation
Three-Lines Basketball teaches the skills used in traditional basketball, but children must cheer on their teammates and work together.
See it in action.
Agree on the rules
Elementary-aged children are learning to follow social norms and appreciate clear expectations. Display rules for popular recess games. Set the expectation that all students can join games like four square and jump rope to encourage students to interact with peers outside of their friend groups.
Find 150+ fun games in our Skill Development Game Guide.
Includes everything from games you can play in a small space with no materials, to games you can play in a big group during recess. Search for games by age level, time/space/materials available, and by the skills used (like problem solving or teamwork).
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Want more help building skills at recess? Our professional development workshops help teachers and recess staff use games, attention getters, and other hands-on tools to help kids build social skills through play.
